21st Century: Girls Take the Lead

I-N-D-E-P-E-N-D-E-N-T, Thanks Webbie for reinforicing how to spell that correctly. Anyways independent woman, what the hell does that even mean exactly? To me its my positioning in a relationship. I want to be independent. I am no feminist and I still believe in chivalry and men buying me drinks and dinners, but the fact remains that I still want my own independence. I want this thing called personal space, girls night out, and whatever else I need to achieve this independent woman status. Basically I want my cake and I want to freaking eat it too.

Rule #6: Be independent. Take the lead.

Back in 1920 when women were granted the right to vote life for woman changed dramatically. If it were for women like Susan B Anthony my parents would have found my husband, I would be at home knocked up turning butter and baking pies like Betty Crooker. I am thankful that I can wear revelaing clothing, talk about obscene things, and generally do whatever a man can do. Reevaluating why I am still single and how to become a girlfriend girl I've decided I need to take matters into my own hands.

Let's face it. Men are useless a large precent of the time. They are good for fixing things likecars/dishwashers, a little afternoon delights, and paying for my vodka tonic addiction...AA is for quitters so don't even recommend it. Men are also, most of the time, afraid of women, especially independent women. I have a friend that is an amazing guy. Seriously I would probably date him but as I have slept in his roommates bed, and am sleeping with one of his best friends, I am out of the running. He is funny, motivated, employed, supports himself, and is getting his bod into prime shape. He also has a femalphobia - the fear of women. When approaching females he well doesnt really have any sort of game at all. Period. Its quite sad, but it made me think. Maybe my prince charming is femalphobic as well.

With the independence I have also been blessed with the ability to communicate well, with men especially. So why shouldn't I be the one to walk up to a good looking guy in a bar and let fate/nature/my sex drive take its course? Usually I will give someone the eyes. You know, the flirty smile and starring from across the bar to give off the yea you need to come talk to me vibe. But maybe I am going about this the wrong way. So my newest rule is if you have any interest at all in a dude take the lead and approach him first. Plus guys love a girl with confidence so why not start off showing it off? Lord knows I have plenty.